Speaking out of personal experiences, there is one thing I know. There are somethings in life that are terrible. Downright awful. There are days when you wish you would've just stayed in bed rather than get up and deal with everything that came. Sometimes you just don't want to talk to anyone, but you have to (like, f.e. if you have a job). Other times you feel you've had enough of all the crap that has been going on in your life, and you feel like you're about to go off in a rage. Maybe sometimes, you do.
So? Is there a point in all of this? Personally, I never thought there was. I thought it was just an endless torment, where it's just there to constantly remind us that life sucks and that we're powerless to do anything to change our fate. Boy, was I wrong...
It's certain that if someone is in a bad mood and things just keep building up inside him, eventually he will pop like a balloon, no matter what type of person we're talking about (and actually, the less social they are, the worse the outcome may be when they let themselves go). But, if this person learns to make use of these feelings, then this whole experience can be a massive tool for the future.
So, let's say someone's having a horrible day. At the office, at school, at home, anywhere. It happens to the best of us. The priority in these situations is to have some sort of a haven. A place where we can escape to and that makes feel safe, comfortable and relaxed. Whether that's just a room or a gym, it depends on the individual.
The next step would be to rationally think about the events that transpired during the day that made us so upset. What went wrong, where we were at fault and where others were to blame, solely to keep ourselves from repeating the same mistakes in the future.
The final step would be to prepare ourselves for the day ahead. Especially if during our outrage session we made others feel bad. We should be ready to apologize and move forward from there, fixing any damage caused to relationships through the course of time.
These hard days aren't very easy to forget, and there's a reason for that! They allow us to remember all the wrong things we did in order to keep us from doing them again. It's like some sort of mental exercise.
It's a fact that we cannot escape difficult or embarrassing situations, especially not during our younger years. But, learning to manage them in a way that allows us to learn and mature from them is a hidden strength. If we just brush everything off like it never happened, then we don't learn anything. Taking experiences and sorting them out in order to not repeat our mistakes in the future is power.
People hurt one another with words. Daily. Hourly. But, it takes a special kind of person to not listen to other people's bad remarks, and to not reply. It's difficult to shut your ears. But not letting anyone affect you, not letting anybody get to you, knowing your own weaknesses and strengths to the point that other's words don't reach you no matter how hard they try is something that only comes from life experiences. Only you know who you really are, what you've done, why you did it, where you did it and how you did it. Everyone else can only see what you let them see, so they judge upon that. Keeping faith in ourselves and who we really are is one of the most difficult things nowadays.
In a sad conclusion, I will remark that people never truly understand each other in this life. Not through the deepest friendships, not through marriage, not even through parenthood. So, since we're alone, it's very important to have a very strong spirit, because we may not take many physical blows in life, but we take more than enough mental ones...
So? Is there a point in all of this? Personally, I never thought there was. I thought it was just an endless torment, where it's just there to constantly remind us that life sucks and that we're powerless to do anything to change our fate. Boy, was I wrong...
It's certain that if someone is in a bad mood and things just keep building up inside him, eventually he will pop like a balloon, no matter what type of person we're talking about (and actually, the less social they are, the worse the outcome may be when they let themselves go). But, if this person learns to make use of these feelings, then this whole experience can be a massive tool for the future.
So, let's say someone's having a horrible day. At the office, at school, at home, anywhere. It happens to the best of us. The priority in these situations is to have some sort of a haven. A place where we can escape to and that makes feel safe, comfortable and relaxed. Whether that's just a room or a gym, it depends on the individual.
The next step would be to rationally think about the events that transpired during the day that made us so upset. What went wrong, where we were at fault and where others were to blame, solely to keep ourselves from repeating the same mistakes in the future.
The final step would be to prepare ourselves for the day ahead. Especially if during our outrage session we made others feel bad. We should be ready to apologize and move forward from there, fixing any damage caused to relationships through the course of time.
These hard days aren't very easy to forget, and there's a reason for that! They allow us to remember all the wrong things we did in order to keep us from doing them again. It's like some sort of mental exercise.
It's a fact that we cannot escape difficult or embarrassing situations, especially not during our younger years. But, learning to manage them in a way that allows us to learn and mature from them is a hidden strength. If we just brush everything off like it never happened, then we don't learn anything. Taking experiences and sorting them out in order to not repeat our mistakes in the future is power.
People hurt one another with words. Daily. Hourly. But, it takes a special kind of person to not listen to other people's bad remarks, and to not reply. It's difficult to shut your ears. But not letting anyone affect you, not letting anybody get to you, knowing your own weaknesses and strengths to the point that other's words don't reach you no matter how hard they try is something that only comes from life experiences. Only you know who you really are, what you've done, why you did it, where you did it and how you did it. Everyone else can only see what you let them see, so they judge upon that. Keeping faith in ourselves and who we really are is one of the most difficult things nowadays.
In a sad conclusion, I will remark that people never truly understand each other in this life. Not through the deepest friendships, not through marriage, not even through parenthood. So, since we're alone, it's very important to have a very strong spirit, because we may not take many physical blows in life, but we take more than enough mental ones...
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